The three qualities that seem to be most important in creating the Gentle Man are empathy, knowledge, and poise. I arrange these components based on their relative worth. The ability to sympathize is a reliable indicator of a man's greatness, and no man is great without it. Imagination and empathy are like twins. All people, no matter how high or low, rich or poor, knowledgeable or unlearned, kind or bad, intelligent or foolish, must have a place in your heart. If you don't, you will never be able to understand them. I'm sorry! It is the open sesame of all hearts, the touchstone to all secrets, and the key to all knowledge. You may understand why a man thinks and acts the way he does if you put yourself in his shoes. If you put yourself in his shoes, your anger will turn into sympathy, and your tears will erase the evidence of his wrongdoing. The world has been saved by guys with extraordinary compassion.
However, knowledge must accompany empathy; otherwise, the feelings may become naive and sympathy might be squandered on a field mouse rather than a human soul, or on a poodle rather than a child. When knowledge is put to use, it becomes wisdom, and wisdom is a sense of values that allows you to distinguish important facts from unimportant ones. Simply put, tragedy and comedy are matters of value: a small mismatch in life makes us laugh, while a large one is tragic and a source of sorrow.
The ability to control your empathy and knowledge through physical and mental power is known as poise. You will be left standing in the muck if you are unable to regulate your emotions. In order to avoid being useless and signifying weakness rather than strength, sympathy must not run amok. There are several cases of this loss of control in every institution that treats nerve diseases. The person's life is meaningless to him and the world because he lacks empathy but possesses sympathy.
He represents inefficiency rather than helpfulness. Poise manifests itself more in idea than in action, more in atmosphere than in conscious living, and more in voice than in words. It is more felt than seen and has a spiritual character. It is a state of interior being and understanding that your cause is just, not a matter of physical attributes like size, attitude, or appearance. You can see that it is, in fact, a vast and complex topic that encompasses the entire science of proper living and has enormous implications. I once encountered a man who was physically malformed and essentially a dwarf, yet he exuded such Spiritual Gravity and Poise that it was necessary to sense his presence and accept his superiority in order to enter a room with him. Depleting one's life forces is the result of letting sympathy squander itself on unworthy things. Wisdom includes the ability to conserve, and reserve is a prerequisite for all excellent writing, as well as for everything else.
Poise, which is the control of our knowledge and empathy, suggests that you possess these qualities since without them, you can only control your physical body. To use Poise as a simple gymnastic exercise or etiquette study is to be stiff, self-conscious, foolish, and absurd. Those who perform such amazing feats before heaven that they cause angels to cry are men who lack empathy and knowledge and are attempting to develop peace. What to do with arms and legs is all that their science is concerned with. Poise is about the attitude of the heart controlling the spirit regulating the flesh.
By getting close to nature, one can get knowledge. When it comes to serving his kind, that man is the best. Knowledge and empathy are for the purposes you can give away; you can amass things that you can donate. The wise man knows that we only preserve spiritual characteristics when we give them away, therefore when God has bestowed upon you the lofty blessings of knowledge and sympathy, you will feel a desire to express your thanks by giving them away once more. Allow your light to shine. That will be provided to him. Finally, the minuscule amount of man's knowledge in comparison to the infinite, and the smallness of man's sympathy in comparison to the source from which ours is absorbed, will develop an abnegation and a humility that will give a perfect Poise. Wisdom is the result of exercising wisdom. The Gentleman is a man of impeccable poise, knowledge, and sympathy.
